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<\/a><\/div>\nWhen it comes to marriage<\/a>, we\u2019ve talked about everything from funny pet peeves<\/a> to how to make sex great<\/a>, and over the years, we\u2019ve collected some priceless reader comments. Here are some favorites\u2026<\/p>\n On great advice:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cPeople often say that communication is the key to a successful marriage, but I disagree. I believe it\u2019s KIND communication. Communication won\u2019t do a marriage any favors if you\u2019re only communicating unkind things. Kindness (and generosity) are key.\u201d \u2014 Whitney<\/a><\/p>\n \u201cIt will be nine years for us in September and we have always slept under different blankets. Friends and family who found out tease us, but using the same cover ALWAYS turned into middle-of-the-night, half asleep tug-of-wars. So now we each have a blanket that is made of the fabric and weight we prefer and it is bliss<\/em>. A friend recently told me in regards to marriage advice, \u2018Do whatever will cause the least amount of resentment between the two of you.\u2019 A life lesson right there! \u2014 Holly<\/a><\/p>\n On feel-good rituals:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThe simple, good moments are the ones that my partner and I turn into routine. We consistently take a walk around 10 p.m. before bed. We also do haiku contests when we\u2019re stuck on the train \u2014 the key is to pick a random topic and keep the haiku under a minute or less. And when one of us is nervous about a job interview or tough conversation at work, we\u2019ll remind the nervous one \u2018I\u2019ll love you no more or no less no matter the outcome.\u2019 It helps to have that reminder.\u201d \u2014 Hannah<\/a><\/p>\n On knowing they were the one:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cOne of the moments I knew that my husband was someone I should never let go was in the middle of the night, just a few months into our relationship. He\u2019s a very sound sleeper, but he rolled over and bumped into me pretty hard. Even half asleep, he was so concerned and made sure I was okay (I was totally fine). In that moment, I had this overwhelming peace that he really was the most loving, gentle, and kind person I had ever known. Almost four years of marriage, two cross country moves, multiple job changes, and very scary medical things later\u2026 He\u2019s even better than I thought that night.\u201d \u2014 Girl Named Allyn<\/a><\/p>\n On keeping the spark alive:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cI never thought of myself as a \u2018physical touch\u2019 person, but my husband definitely is. After 11 years of marriage and turning 40, he will still spin me around and make out with me in our kitchen. He still keeps things very sexy, and to be desired after kids, weight gain and long days at work, it is an incredible feeling.\u201d \u2014 Dana<\/a><\/p>\n On compromise:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cWe maybe have a controversial approach to almost everything in our marriage, which is that the person with the better skills, the better vision and the better abilities gets to decide. My husband is amazing \u2014 amazing! \u2014 at so many things from bathing wiggly babies to making old birthday cake recipes \u2018just like grandma used to make.\u2019 And he is rubbish at decorating. When I met him, at 26, he owned the world\u2019s scratchiest sheets and stored his books in plastic milk crates. So, when it comes to decorating our house, I always ask his opinion but we both know that said opinion will generally be overridden by me. And we\u2019re both good with that. Especially since it means he gets to organize it however he likes, our kids are clean, and everyone\u2019s eating good cake at the end of the day.\u201d \u2014 Hilary<\/a><\/p>\n On dealing with change:<\/strong><\/p>\n \u201cThe incredible woman who is now my spouse was a vegetarian when we met, as was I. About two years into dating, she said she wanted to eat meat. I was totally shocked. But the important thing is that she told me her desire to change, rather than just going for it without bringing me along beside her. I\u2019m grateful she knew me well enough to know that I\u2019d object to her eating meat, but also respected me enough to tell me what was on her mind. We talked about it for several months and eventually laid out some ground rules for what our new dining rituals would look like. Change in your partner (and yourself) is inevitable. The important thing is to respect one another in the process.\u201d \u2014 Sarah<\/a><\/p>\n \u201cI met and started dating my husband in high school, almost 25 years ago. One of my relationship hacks is to keep a photo of 17-year-old him around and remind myself how lucky I am that he\u2019s not the one that got away. We\u2019ve both grown and changed so much. But when I think of that feeling of first loving a new person and the intensity of young love, which we\u2019ve now long outgrown, I can remind myself that those feelings I had are for this person right in front of me now\u2026 That same handsome 17-year-old in the photo.\u201d \u2014 Lauren<\/a><\/p>\n What would you add? We\u2019d love to hear\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n P.S. Reader comments on love<\/a> and the best relationship advice I ever received<\/a>.<\/p>\n (Photo from Irina Bo\/Stocksy.)<\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n