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Maybe this is TMI, but\u2026<\/p>\n
Back in college, my boyfriend and I would play a game where we\u2019d sit on the sofa or lie in bed and\u2026just look at each other. We weren\u2019t \u201callowed\u201d to kiss or touch, we just had to look into each other\u2019s eyes for as long as possible before we couldn\u2019t stand it anymore. When one person finally made a move, the other person was declared the winner.<\/p>\n
Have you done this? At first, maybe you laugh and feel dumb. But as time goes on, you get into this dreamlike state where you feel really connected to your partner, and then it starts to feel electrified and every tiny breath or move the other person makes feel so intense, and finally you can\u2019t wait any longer to grab them. I\u2019ve done it since with other partners, and it\u2019s always wildly sexy.<\/p>\n
\u201cForget sex, forget nudity,\u201d writes Sophie Gilbert in her Atlantic article The Death of the Sex Scene<\/a>. \u201cThe history of film and television suggests that, sometimes, the sexiest thing two people can do on-screen is simply look at each other \u2014\u00a0look, for a prolonged period of time.\u201d She points out that you have to have chemistry with the person \u2014 it obviously doesn\u2019t work with just anyone \u2014 but it can be very fun if you\u2019re in the mood.<\/p>\n They did this in Dirty Dancing<\/a>, too.<\/em><\/p>\n This post makes me laugh in part because it\u2019s so simple \u2014\u00a0it reminds me of when I wrote a post about candles<\/a> in which I teased myself for being like \u201cguys, have you heard of candles???\u201d but sometimes the simplest things are the most fun. So, I stand by this!<\/p>\n What are you finding sexy these days? What are your random turn ons<\/a>? What about sexy books<\/a>? xoxo<\/strong><\/p>\n P.S. More fun things<\/a>, plus a fun movie night idea<\/a> and how to keep the sparks flying<\/a>. Also, on Big Salad: how to talk dirty, if you want to<\/a>.<\/p>\n![\"dirty](\"https:\/\/cupofjo.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/dirty-dancing.jpeg\")
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